I haven’t been following the Presidential Election of Singapore lately, until the promise to donate half of a President’s salary caught my eye. The thought that crossed my mind wasn’t “is he out of his mind?” Rather it was “interesting, for the sake of the votes, though indeed he doesn’t need so much money anyway.”
While vying for a position, it’s no-brainer to speak of wanting to shine the light in the right direction, to be of exemplary and unique model as compared to the rest. You need not put the others down, just push yourself higher. With all the great plans as the playing cards in hand, one often miss out the point that things change. The situation, the environment and the playing field are often in motion. The plans of today may not work for tomorrow. And such plans, voiced out as promises to make life better, may backfire.
Job interviews are always intimidating, where the control is not in your hands. We always know to at least do a background check on what type of people the company is hiring, and then during the interview, momentarily changed into that specific type that the company is looking for. On top of that, displaying the arrays of achievements and abilities to impress those judges. On the other hand, denying the ugly weaknesses and sweeping all underachievement under the carpet, praying so damn hard they don’t flip it open. We are taught to say whatever it takes for us to fill up that vacancy, even if at the end, we might not deliver. The promises to pitch sales like Steve jobs, to be thirsty for scientific discovery, to achieve milestones. Well, you can’t predict the future, so don’t hold out the promises.
Committing into a relationship, where the “I’ll love you forever” are poured out of the mouth without serious consideration of the might-bes in the near future. Words, just so to keep the people by your sides. It’s still true that without pain, there won’t be gain. It still also hold true that if you don’t venture into risk, nothing would be earned from it. The promises that all things will be smooth sailing and conflicts resolved amicably, the promise that the two will be together due their dying days.
Relations do turn nasty when things don’t work out as per foreseen/planned. A part hiding truth, a part holding on to the pride, in addition to the lack of communication when things turn sour. Justifying your stand, defending yourself come next when everything starts to fall apart, fall away from the expected scenarios. And often, coupled with the slight inflexibility a.k.a. stubbornness, the whole belief starts to collapse into pieces. After all, plans are still plans.
Soured reputation, dismissal from work and fallout between couples. They all share a same underlying cause, that no one would spell out. Of the rosy picture painted before rising up to the position, how many can maintain that vibrancy of the painted picture. Promises that you made just to win the hearts of the people, promises prior to assuming the position. Sometimes, you can’t hold on simply because your heart faltered.
On the other hand, the rugged altruists is quite an interesting read. It speaks of following your heart, it speaks of humanity. Some things are just that simple, you just have to follow it through.